Being Anxious And Controlling Outcomes

After years of being anxious and needing to control outcomes, I would say that I've learned many life lessons the main way we tend to learn them, by experiencing heartbreak, pain, and sometimes feeling deeply misunderstood. It was tough and confusing when they happened and I am grateful for these lessons now, as they have made me so much more resilient! Our struggle becomes our growth. 

If you want to go after your dreams and create the impact that you’re here to make,  you will likely learn these lessons at some point in your journey, so my intention is that me sharing my story can help you move through yours…..or at least know that you’re never alone. 

Here are some of the most important lessons I have learned: 

1. Sacrificing myself to please others was a fast pass to depletion and overwhelm.  

I realized that in order to feel like I could live in joy and give from a full cup, I needed to begin to ask myself “what do I want?”. I built up so much resentment over the years when I wasn’t taking care of myself. This topic is talked about a lot for women and especially moms and I sure fit the status quo. 

To be clear, the truth is that this is not bad or wrong, it just is. It’s often the path we must take in order to realize that we want something different. AND to realize that it’s of the utmost importance. 

Taking care of yourself becomes like oxygen, necessary for life. 

2. You never know HOW, you just have to put one foot in front of the other 

Somewhere along the line, I realized that nobody has life figured out. We look at other people and think we must possess a secret user manual to life because they seem to know what they are doing. 

The truth is, everyone is figuring out life and business as they go. Nobody knew how before they started!! So don’t let a story about not knowing how stop you from trying! 

I have always loved the quote “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” and it’s how I live my life. I put one foot in front of the other and as they say in Frozen 2 “make the next right choice”. I stopped being so caught up in “the how” before I even started and this made the biggest difference. 

I just start. Right where I am. And trust that the path will reveal itself along the way. It ALWAYS does! 

3. No matter what, never abandon myself

Life will inevitably throw a lot at you. There’s never a perfect time to begin or to start changing your habits. You just decide one day. It’s that simple. 

And you need to be your biggest cheerleader. The one you can count on more than anyone. I hear women I coach say this all the time “I don’t know if I can trust myself to follow through.” When they got really honest with themselves, they always followed through when it was really important. 

So treat your goals and your visions as if they are incredibly important. Know that you’ve got everything within you to make them happen and there’s an abundance of support from people and spirit waiting for you to ask for help. 

Can you relate to any of the above lessons?

I don’t want you to waste any more time buying into the story that you have to be perfect or get it all right….so I really do hope that this blog post has helped you to realize what it takes to live a powerful life in joy.

What are some gifts your hardships have provided you? 

Have a great week ahead.