Robust ThemeDec 09, 2019 2020-04-08 7:40
3 Toxic Myths You Believe About Yourself
Today, I’ll cover the 3 toxic myths that we believe about ourselves that all people can break free from to live into your life purpose
Getting control over your mindset is the #1 place to start if you want to have peace of mind and trust in yourself. As the popular saying goes, "You are your worst enemy and best asset" ;-)
From supporting SO MANY women from all walks of life over the last 7 years, I can tell you that my most content clients are those who understand the power of choosing your thoughts and operating from their own desires!
Myth #1: "I can achieve massive success without prioritizing myself”
This starts with naming what you identify as success. For many, that’s having a lot of money, power, or climbing the corporate ladder. For others that might mean, taking care of yourself, having peace of mind, making an impact, or all of the above.
We have been programmed to think that we are supposed to have endless amounts of energy and hustle our asses off in order to achieve success. We also believe that we should stick with situations and not quit even if what we are doing is completely misaligned and sucking the life out of us.
This patriarchal burnout loop DOESN’T WORK for anyone. You end up feeling so out of balance, overwhelmed, and dissatisfied when you aren’t prioritizing yourself.
The truth is slowing down, honoring yourself AND resting are actually critical and not optional.
If you’re like me and you desire a life where you feel joy, love, and contentment over anxiety, scarcity, or fear, then this is something worth prioritizing. Try blocking blank space in your calendar 3 times a week to start. It’ll feel weird and unproductive at first and eventually you’ll come to value that time more than anything.
After all - remember your SELF WORTH IS NOT IN YOUR PRODUCTIVITY
Myth #2: "You need to hold in your emotions and not cry to be strong”
This is absolutely not true.
Stuffing down our emotions and pretending like we don’t feel them is incredibly unhealthy. They will eventually rise to the surface or could turn into an injury or disease if ignored long enough. Not acknowledging and processing our emotions has us remain in a fight or flight mode which literally can increase our heart rate, slow digestive functions, and/or cause us to feel anxious or depressed.
Some of you were taught as children not to cry or that showing emotion is a sign of weakness.
I’m here to tell you the opposite is true. Believing that story is no longer true or needed!!
I believe in exposed strength. The strongest people I know are the most vulnerable. They are willing to face their darkness, shine a light on it, and use their breakthroughs to help others.
Vulnerability is ultimately a gift of self-love. It’s telling yourself “I love and accept you exactly as you are. You don’t need to pretend anymore. You are safe”. It’s FOR YOU not for other people….although others benefit greatly from your courageous strength.
I have had clients who never cried who now embrace the waterworks. They understand how to move emotion through their bodies and calm their own nervous system ON PURPOSE. It’s one of the best gifts you can give yourself!
This is your permission to feel….all of it!
Myth #3: All of me isn’t lovable
This one hurts my heart just typing it because I believed this to be true for most of my life. In fact up until not that long ago I had written on my gold board (aka whiteboard that’s gold) “I forgive myself for believing that I am a piece of shit when I disappoint someone else”.
For whoever needs to hear this, you are not a piece of shit either.
We cannot control how other people are going to receive us yet we spend our entire lives making sure that everyone else approves of who we are and what we do.
We lose sight of who we actually are and what we desire. Coming home to yourself and the truth of who you are, takes away the power of everyone else's opinions of you. I cannot even begin to share the joys you experience through committing to the journey of getting to know and love yourself (it’s also a messy AF process).
You’ll gain a calm confidence allowing you to respond from love rooted in yourself rather than react to your life. You’ll rely less on validation from others and you’ll be able to look at yourself in the mirror and feel so much love for ALL OF YOURSELF.
Why is believing in these 3 myths problematic?
Because believing in these 3 myths will stop you from living a life you love. Your confidence gets affected, you can feel isolated, and stop trusting yourself to make decisions.
As someone who coaches women for a living, I have seen breakthrough after breakthrough and I know that is possible for everyone to end the cycle of people-pleasing It just takes your commitment and support to break free of these old stories.
I want you to believe this is possible for you. I want you to believe you are worthy of everything you desire and more. And I want you to know whatever you desire wants you back!!!
So take heart. You can do this! Don't for a second doubt yourself.